Spoilt for Choice

Heather Langley Mental Guru

We are so lucky! Sometimes we forget how lucky we are as we strive to keep up with what is expected of us, taking it all in our stride and taking it all for granted.

We have so many choices; a veritable smorgasbord of options but we stick to our daily routines and  well trodden paths  When faced with unpredictable circumstances it’s likely that we will have an established pattern of reactions and responses. If familiarity breeds contempt then we may well be contemptuous of ourselves.

Be Kind to Yourself

The dictionary defines contempt as: the feeling that a person or a thing is worthless or beneath consideration. So behaving without awareness when we recognise that our behaviour is unhelpful really does lack consideration for ourselves. We need to learn to let the dust settle before we react; take a moment to realise that we have other options before we respond.

Tomorow is another day!

Was Scarlett O’Hara procrastinating or just giving her mind space to think things through?  Sometimes when we are faced with unexpected news or information that requires a response we can have a reflex or ‘knee jerk’ reaction. Later we may reflect and wish we could have that moment again and react differently. So why not just postpone the initial reaction until you have time to consider all your options. This doesn’t mean you’ll never get angry again as getting angry is still an option. It does mean, however, that you might pass on the angry response once you have established that there’s a more helpful (healthy) solution.

As I say to my yoga students when a posture becomes a problem, just step off the mat and give it a rest. The next time you try it, it won’t be as bad…it never is!